Halloween!

Well, its been about 3 weeks since my last post so I have some catching up to do! In my last post I was just starting to study at Southampton Solent. Now in my 4th week of classes...I am pretty accustomed to "Uni" life. Harvey and I are still living at his sisters, but we have found an apartment and should be moving in the next week!!! It is in Southampton, by the marina, and is about a 20-30 minute walk to Solent (University). I will definitely take some pictures to show everyone once we have moved in. Honestly, October has been slightly uneventful for me here. I have been laying a bit low this month to make up for the money I will spend when I move to the apartment. (Moving is always a bit spendy!)

I have gotten over the vacation feeling that I had for the first month I was here and now I am really settling in. When I first arrived I felt uncomfortable in a lot of situations, especially being around a lot of people. Grocery shopping, the mall,  and the train station were quite daunting places. Now, however, I am completely comfortable. Sure, I still get wierd looks as soon as I order my meal..or speak aloud in class...but I am over it. I am used to the whispering as soon as I finish speaking in class or I finish ordering my meal. Not to say that everyone does it, but it does happen. The past couple of weeks I have felt a lot better and not as homesick. Since this is my blog and I have always been a pretty honest person..I feel like I can be completely honest in my thoughts. I do miss my family and my friends and it is much harder being away from everyone and everything  than I ever could have imagined. Studying abroad is an amazing experience but it is not completely easy. Don't worry though, each day gets a bit easier and the more comfortable I feel here the happier I am!!

Even though it is Halloween today, Harvey and I celebrated this weekend. I had a girl in my class today ask me what I was doing for Halloween and when I said "nothing" she asked, "Really, but wasn't Halloween invented in America?" (No joke, that happened.)  Apparently, British people have never really celebrated Halloween to an extreme until recently. (This is what I have noticed/heard). I guess I will not expect children knocking on the door for candy. :( Anyway, Harvey and I went to the party on Saturday night as Katy Perry and Russell Brand. I made the cupcake boobs myself! Everyone else at the party dressed in scary costumes because that is how people do Halloween here, Who' da thunk?

Harvey and I are traveling to Bath next weekend for a family friends' 40th birthday party. I don't know much about Bath but I will learn because we are going to see the sites on Sunday before heading home. :)

The birthday hangover effect.

UPDATE: Today, for the first time since I have been in England I used the word mobile instead of cell when talking about phones. The worst was that I did not notice it until Grace pointed it out.....and so it begins...

This was my first week of classes at Solent. Surprisingly, since I have already spent 2 weeks at Solent I was not very nervous about my first day. The 18 year olds that I find myself in classes with, however, are. I am not going to say it is not annoying to be in classes with freshmen...but it is definitely eye-opening. Was I this obnoxious when I was a freshmen? Maybe but hopefully not.

So far what I have noticed about the English university system is that it is not extremely different from an American university. The teachers start with a syllabus the first day of class, hand out powerpoints, tell you about the online portion of the credit, etc. My schedule is a bit different though. Instead of taking 4 classes a semester and changing in December, I am taking 6 classes and they go through the entire year. I have a 3 week vacation during Christmas and another 3 week break at Easter. :) This makes me happy. I don't especially want to bore you about my classes but everyone seems to ask me about them so I will tell you! I am taking Intro to Spanish, Managing Finance, Accounting Skills, Marketing Management, Advertising Principles, and Economics in Business. They sound much more daunting than they are. I am hoping they will be a bit easier since most are first and second year classes.

I met a few people in my classes. I try to sit by girls for the most part and they are usually very sweet. As soon as they sit next to me, most of them introduce themselves. "Hiya", "You alrigh'?" is usually how the conversation starts from their end. As soon as I respond, most get excited when they realize that I am American. One girl in particular talked to me about 10 minutes before I told her I was an exchange student and she had no clue I was American. It was quite funny.

Last night Harvey and I headed to Southampton to meet some of his friends at a bar called Yuzu. A few of his girl friends were celebrating their 30th birthdays and we decided to celebrate with them. We might have celebrated a bit too hard because I am definitely hungover today. ;) To make things clear, Harvey grew up in Totton which is the town his sister lives in and many of Harvey's friends live here to this day. There are about 10 really great friends in Harvey's group and another 10-20 that he knows well and were at the party last night. It isn't exactly easy to jump in to a tight knit group of friends and it is certainly worse when you are 22, American, and do not know any of the inside jokes that have been part of their group for 10 years or more. Anyway, they are great people and all of them are really inviting. I feel lucky because in another situation I might feel awkward but all of his friends makes me feel welcome. Also, I am still new enough that they have not started taking the piss out of me yet.

Tonight Harvey's father who works in Abu Dhabi and his wife Karen are over for a Sunday roast. In fact, I can smell the food cooking right now and it smells beyond delicious. We are also watching the Buffalo Bills play the Eagles on ESPN America. NFL football is a little piece of home and I love watching it or having it on in the background while writing my blog. With all of the rugby and football (soccer) talk, it is nice to know something about a sport and not look like a complete idiot. NFL also reminds me of my dad and I imagine he is sitting at home right now watching the game. <3

Fresher's week.

Fresher's week=chaos. I was a bit spoiled on the first week of school because I was only with international students. When I arrived to school on Monday of Freshers week, things were much different. It was exciting at first..being able to see the school come to life. However, things took a turn when I discovered that I would be waiting in much longer lines with obnoxious 18 year olds. This whole week was waiting in lines and trying to figure out schedules, enrollment, campus cards, etc. It was quite a frustrating week so I am glad that it is finally over.

On Wednesday night, I went out for the first time in Southampton. Harvey and I met up with his friend Stu who works at a nightclub called JUNK. Because Stu works at JUNK, he knows a lot of people at other nightclubs as well. As we were walking to the first bar called POP, we noticed huge groups of teenagers wearing white t-shirts. Apparently, Wednesday night was "Big Night Out" for the freshmen of Solent. Hundreds of freshmen boys and girls were dressed and ready to party the night away. We were literally the only non-freshers in POP. The thing that surprised me most about going out that night were the outfits that the girls wore. The freshmen guys were dressed in their t-shirts and jeans. The freshmen girls had obviously received their t-shirts, cut them up to almost nothing, and then wore the shortest shorts and the highest heels they could find. For the small amount of girls that were not dressed in their t-shirts, they were wearing even skimpier dresses.

Here is a picture of Big Night Out at JUNK.


 I realize that it must be my conservative Midwest upbringing that makes me prude(ish). That is what I blame it on anyway. Maybe by the end of the year I will break out a mini-skirt, high heels, and an extremely low cut top when I go out....then again...probably not... I will try to be less judgemental though! Anyway, the night was pretty fun. I had school in the morning and Harvey had to work so we got the train to Totton around 1.

Harvey and I are supposed to go to a wedding tomorrow in Essex. Essex is a county and is home of the TV show called "The Only Way is Essex." I love this show....and even named my blog after it. :) Unfortunately, I am unsure if we will make the wedding tomorrow. I have school on Monday and it takes 3 hours by train to get there. The train tickets are also pretty expensive. If we don't go, we might take a walk in the New Forest tomorrow or go out to dinner with a few of Harvey's friends tonight.

Sorry if my blog has been a bit boring recently, since I am going to be here for a year I figure I have enough time to do all of the things I want to do and space them out throughout the year. The weather has been really great here so I hope to do some fun things before it gets cold!

University, not college.

Hello family and friends! It has been a somewhat busy week for me here in the UK. I had an international meet and greet on Wednesday, the 21st of September. I was supposed to meet at the school at 10:00 am but my train was over 20 minutes late and I missed my first meeting (Oops.) It was not a big deal though, there were many meetings throughout the rest of the day that I had to sit through and become really really bored.

My first day of University was ok. They call it University here. It is never called college because college is when a Brit is 16 and 17 and is before one goes to University. They don't have 4 years of "highschool." There were about 200 international students that attended the meetings on Wednesday. I know that there was one other American, but I couldn't find her. It was a very awkward day. At my home university, Black Hills State, the international students hang out with each other. If you are Asian you hang out with Asians, Polish hang out with Polish, etc. It was EXACTLY the same on Wednesday. Languages were being spoken all around me and I did not understand any of them. Every student was looking for another student from their own country. I gave up looking for an American about halfway through the day. I don't want to be that person that only has American friends while I am in another country. I think I will try to find some british girls to talk to in class. British people are more fun anyway. (my opinion.)

On Thursday I skipped my meetings because they were pointless, and stayed home. On Friday I had to meet my international advisor and it went well. I found out that I will meet my academic advisor on Monday and get my timetable (schedule) and student card next week. Next week is Freshers week at the school which is why we don't have classes. Freshers week is a pretty big deal I think. I know that there are massive parties and clubs are crazy with students. A whole week of partying before starting classes? Why not.

O yeah, I thought I would mention that my university has 2 bars. Like, inside the university. Have an hour between classes? Just walk to the Student Union for a pint. This would never work in America in my opinion, where college students drink only to get drunk. Messy.

Boats!

It has been another week here in England. For the most part, it was not very eventful. In an effort to stop gaining weight and fit in the clothes I brought here, I started running again. I ran almost every night this past week and even though I get lost sometimes, I am starting to understand Totton a little better. Harvey and I went down to one of his favorite pubs on Friday night called the farmhouse and had a few drinks and food. The farmhouse is a chain so it is not a unique pub but the food and drinks are cheap!

On Saturday, Harvey and I headed to Southampton. Our first stop was to walk the route from the train startion to Southampton Solent, the school I will be attending. This Wednesday the 21st, I have my international induction programme at Solent. It starts at 10:00 am and I will have to take the train from Totton to Southampton and then walk to the school. I did not have a chance to see the inside of Solent yet, but the outside is modern. Fortunately, the school is not especially large. I am extremely nervous about Wednesday and have no idea what to expect but I am also very excited!

Our next stop of the day was to look for apartments in Central Southampton. We want to be close to Harvey's work and my school so being in the center of town is our best location. We went to a rental agency and have a viewing this weekend so hopefully we can get into an apartment by October.

Around 1pm we headed to the boat show! Southampton is a port city as I have stated before and have an annual boat show each year. This is a HUGE boat show. Mostly its comprised of vendors, but once you get to the docks you can see at least a hundred boats on display. Obviously I am not extremely interested in boats but the best part of the show for me was walking out on the docks. The view was beautiful. It was a windy day so the ocean water was rushing pretty rapidly and would spill onto the docks. I just wanted to sit down and put my feet in the sea! Another highlight was seeing the cruise ships that port in Southampton. There was one you could get really close to and I decided that I was definitely going to book a cruise while I am here.

Harvey's brother in law James welcomed his parents to town on Sunday afternoon. They are from Cornwall which Grace jokes should be its own country. The only thing I know about Cornish people is that their accent is very difficult to understand and also they make a great pasty! Cornish pasties are DELICIOUS! I am hoping his mom makes some while she is here. :) On Sunday night we headed to a pub/restaurant that I had never been called "The Empress of Blanding." It was named after a pig. Absolutely none of this made sense to me. Why someone would name their pig and why name their pub after a pig, I did not ask. However, the pub was really cool. We all got starters, mains, and desserts. The bill was 174 between 7 of us. (Pretty reasonable for 3 courses) The pub was decorated beautifully and also had quotes written on parts of the walls. I posted my favorite below.

I have noticed as I write this blog that I have been writing a lot of stories. I love writing about what I did yesterday or the day before but what is getting lost in my stories are the little things. The little aspects about England that I do not have enough space to write about or seems too far off the subject when I am writing my stories. The little things, though, are my favorite things. The things that I am getting used to or things I feel like I will never get used to. I have only been in England for a little over 2 weeks but it feels like I have lived here for months. I want to tell you about the England that I experience so my stories make a bit more sense to you.

The little things

1. Weather: I thought everyone was joking when they talked about how cloudy and miserable England's weather is. Well, they were NOT joking. England's weather really is terrible. It is cloudy every day here and I am not exaggerating. I want to go for a run, and it rains. On the plus side, I rarely have to worry about heat and sweating and I never really have to do my hair.

2. Food: I love bacon sandwiches. I love England's cheese. When we were in America, Harvey refused to eat American cheese that comes individually wrapped in plastic. Now I know why. I have bought mild cheddar cheese from the store and it is the tastiest most delicious cheese. We process everything so much in America. It is disgusting. The bacon here is thick, salty, and covered in meat not fat. Roast beef is delicious and thick and juicy. Lamb is unbelievably tasty. I know this will change my food choices when I get back to America.

3. Food continued:  England, like America, also has a lot of processed food. You could never imagine the amount and different kinds of crisps (chips) they sell here. Its not just bbq and sour cream and onion. Its prawn cocktail (shrimp flavoured) and smoky bacon and roast chicken. The amount of sweets (candy) they have is also enormous. Sweet shops everywhere. You walk in, and there are tubs and tubs of sweets that you can shovel into small bags and  take with you. At the grocery store there is an ENORMOUS aisle of just sweets. My favorite is Haribo. 

4. Pubs: I have said before that I love Pubs. I will tell you now why I love Pubs. Pubs are nothing like any bar in America that I have been to. Most are old and oddly shaped. Sometimes the tables are small and you can barely fit in. I have seen pastors in pubs, rugby players in pubs, elderly couples in pubs, young couples in pubs, dogs in pubs...etc. So many different people go to pubs. I am surprised how many people are in the pub drinking at all times of the day. Pubs have a sense of community. In Totton, when we go to a pub, Harvey's sister Grace knows almost everyone. The biggest difference is the atmosphere.

5. Pub Food: Another reason I love pubs is pub food. On Sundays for 6 pounds you can buy a Roast Dinners at most pubs. Its a heaping pile of Roast Beef, Veg, (they never say vegetables here its always veg) and Potatoes and usually comes with a pint (beer). Harvey's favorite meal as I have mentioned is Roast Beef with Yorkshire Pudding. Yorkshire pudding is a sweet batter when cooked is kind of like a pancake but better. My favorite meal is Fish and Chips, although I had lasagne the other day and it was amazingly delicious. The food is mostly comfort food..and what is more comforting about it is that you never take food home. You always eat your entire heaping pile of food so I never worry about eating too much. I always leave the pub feeling uncomfortably full but ridiculously happy!

Yorkshire pudding is the donut looking food

 

  6. Tea: I have to mention tea even though I think most people know that the British drink it. However, in case you don't understand how essential tea is a part of life here I will tell you that I drink a cup of tea about 4 times a day. I drink it with 2 splendas and a little milk. If one is making tea, it is rude not to ask everyone else in the vicinity if they would like a cup. Grace and James both know how I like my tea. I know how they like theirs. This is what I have noticed about tea. It is never selfish.

7. Family: I have met many people here over the age of 25 that live with their parents. I have met many people here who are in their 30s and are not married. I have met many married women who are in their 30s who have not had children. When the women in their 30's have children, they only have 1 or 2.

 In midwest America, if you are not married by 25 you are almost considered an old maid. If you do not have a child by 30 people think you are strange or believe you are never having one. It is not common to only have one child.

Families are different here. Harvey is 29 and only one of his friends has a child. He is finally at the age where his friends are getting married. I was worried when I came over that I would not relate to Harvey's friends because they are older than me but they really are not that different.

The littler things

8. Grammar: Tyres, Yoghurt, Colour. What do these words have in common? That's right. They are spelled wrong. Well, wrong to me. I don't know if I will ever get used to spelling yogurt "Yoghurt." It is just too wierd.

9. Lingo: I have given you a taste of lingo already in this post. Food has a lot of different lingo that I have noticed. Also, you never say "Can I have a Jack and Diet" when ordering Jack Daniels you say "JD and diet coke." It seems easy enough to understand but they are always confused if I say it my way.

 I will give you my favorite lingo I have noticed so far. "I can't be bothered" means "I don't want to do that," To take the piss means that you are making fun of someone. "Toilet" means "Bathroom" (I know, it sounds disgusting). People do often say bloody and bollucks. Fuck and Shit are a part of daily grammar and I have also even heard C*#t, which is too horrible."Bum" is butt..saying that you are "gutted" means that you are sad, and yes, "fag" means cigarette. If you are "fit" it means that you are attractive and a "mate" is not your significant other but your friend. If someone "winds you up" it means they are getting on your nerves. These are the most often used slang I have noticed. I have never understood what "cheeky" means. People use it in so many different contexts.

I can't force myself to say mobile phone instead of cell phone and sometimes my stubborness to keep my own lingo makes people confused about what I am saying.

 

10. Kissing:  I am horrible at kissing. As a lady who meets new people often, I should be able to recieve a cheek kiss gracefully. I can't. Usually if I meet someone new all that I can think about is if they are going to cheek kiss me and how can I get out of it. They make it complicated here. There is not a specific side that they kiss on and they don't tell you when they are going to do it. How can I help it if someone lunges at me with their lips pursed and I get completely surprised and awkwarded out?? Obviously I am semi-joking and being dramatic but I do get a bit of anxiety over the cheek kiss. I don't want people to think I am rude or for them to feel awkward just because I do.

Kissing isn't just for cheeks when you meet. Kisses are given freely in texts, emails, and fb wall posts. People xxx (kiss) on every single text they send. Like my lingo, I cannot force myself to kiss on texts or fb yet.

Pirates and Pearls.

Saturday night was the Pirates and Pearls Ball. I was invited as Harvey's date and he was invited because he is part of the sales team of the hotel where the ball was located. Since I had gotten back from Winchester a mere 3 hours before we had to leave I was exhausted and no longer cared enough to worry about my dress or how I would look at the ball. I took a quick nap and then started the process of getting ready.

I wore a short black dress and Harvey assured me this would be just fine. We made our way to his hotel and he gave me a quick tour before we settled into a lounge and were offered our first (of many) free drinks of the night. Harvey is the only man that works with his sales team so naturally when we were all supposed to meet in the lounge at 7, it was 7:30 before all of the ladies showed up. I was very relieved when all of the women were wearing short dresses and I was definitely not out of place. No one wants to be "that" girl.

We headed into the reception area where we were offered our second free drink of the night. I did not know that the ball was named Pirates and Pearls until I arrived and many people were dressed up. The reception area had many themed decorations and was really cool. After what seemed like forever (I had high heels on and had to stand the whole time) we headed into the ballroom. There were around 15 tables and Harvey's sales team was Table 12. I also did not know that the reason for this "ball" was charity. It was put on every year for different charity organizations.

The food was delicious although very late. It was a 3 course mean that was supposed to start at 8 but we didnt end up eating the main course until 9:30. I am not a happy when I am hungry. The starter course was salmon, the main was Roast beef with Yorkshire Pudding, the dessert was a lemon tart. After eating there was an auction and a band. Unfortunately, around 11:30 I was falling asleep in my chair (not from drinking, I had only had 2 the whole night). Harvey got a cab and we headed home.

Our table. I am in the back :)

My first "ball" was an interesting one. It really was not what I considered a ball at all. It was like a fancier prom but with unlimited free alcholic drinks and pirates. There was a photo booth which was a highlight and I am sure if I could have lasted longer the night would have ended up a blast. I did not leave dissappointed. I left with a bag of goodies and a hope that sometime Harvey will be invited to another one and I will be able to go.